Balancing Love and Letting Go: Key Considerations for Terminal Care

End-of-Life Planning: Prioritizing Quality of Life in Terminal Illness

When a loved one is living with a terminal or chronic debilitating condition such as Alzheimer’s, dementia, multiple sclerosis (MS), Parkinson’s disease, or others, making decisions about their care as the disease progresses can be both emotionally taxing and complex. Beyond a Do Not Resuscitate (DNR) order, families might consider additional directives to ensure that their loved one’s remaining time is spent in comfort, dignity, and accordance with their wishes.

This is a deeply personal journey that tests the limits of our emotional resilience, challenging us to balance our love and compassion with our own fear of loss. It compels us to confront our reluctance to let go of a loved one and to weigh it against what might be the most compassionate and humane choice. In these situations, the most loving act may be to prioritize the person’s comfort and dignity over the instinct to prolong life, especially when further medical interventions might only extend their suffering.

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Ensuring Comfort and Dignity for Loved Ones

Healthcare Power of Attorney (POA)

Healthcare Power of Attorney

Our last article covered more of the technical aspects of various types of Power of Attorney and how to go about getting one in place. This article deals more with the considerations that go into getting your healthcare wishes articulated in a way that ensures they will be honored via a Living Will, a Durable Healthcare Power of Attorney, or both.

Financial Power of Attorney (POA)

Financial Power of Attorney POA

As our parents (and we) get older, there is a greater risk for a sudden change in physical or cognitive health such that someone else needs to step in and either assist with or entirely take over their health and/or financial decisions. The instrument for assigning someone these powers is a Power of Attorney.

A financial POA can be challenging to get into place because there are high levels of fear, uncertainty, and trust involved. Who, in their’ right mind’ would want to assign the rights over to someone else, even your most trusted child? The problem is that in your ‘wrong mind,’ it is too late to make this assignment.