(Originally published July 9, 2023; revised September 18, 2026)
Our instinct to preserve life is powerful. When someone we love is seriously ill, we look for another treatment, another specialist, another reason to hope. Yet there may come a time when the person living with the illness begins asking a different question: How do I want the remainder of my life to unfold?
My experiences in hospitals and hospice settings have left me thinking about how difficult it can be to distinguish our own desire to keep someone alive from that person’s wishes. Some people want every reasonable opportunity to extend life. Others reach a point at which comfort, familiarity, and control matter more than additional time. Listening carefully to both requires humility.
Medical aid in dying brings these questions into particularly difficult territory. Where authorized, it allows certain terminally ill adults to obtain prescribed medication that they may choose to self-administer to end their lives. Its supporters emphasize autonomy and relief from suffering. Its opponents raise concerns about medical ethics, coercion, disability discrimination, and the protection of vulnerable people.
An informed discussion requires clarity about what the law permits, what it does not, and what compassionate care remains available to everyone. Above all, needing help, living with dementia, or becoming physically dependent never diminishes a person’s inherent dignity.
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