There’s a part of caregiving that no one prepares you for—not the grief, not the exhaustion, but the slow erasure of yourself.
It doesn’t happen overnight. It happens between medication refills and midnight emergencies, in the moments when someone else’s needs eclipse your own, again and again. What begins as an act of love quietly becomes a full-time surrender of your identity, your body, and your nervous system.
And the world applauds your sacrifice—without offering real support.
But what if surviving this role didn’t have to mean disappearing inside it?
What if staying whole wasn’t a fantasy but a skill?
This article explores the science—and the practice—of emotional coherence, a physiological state that helps caregivers stay grounded in the storm rather than lost to it. It’s not about optimism. It’s about resilience you can measure, train, and reclaim.
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